...SO WHAT DO WE DO AS FEMALES WHEN WE KNOW OR SUSPECT THAT THE ONE WE LOVE N WHO CLAIMS LOVES YOU IS CHEATING?....I CANT SPEAK FOR OTHERS BUT I CAN SPEAK FOR MYSELF..SO IM IN A SITUATION WHERE PRETTY MUCH I'VE BEEN LIED ..I ADMIT I SNOOPED THROUGH HIS PHONE TO GET TO THE TRUTH BECAUSE EVEN WHEN I ASKED HE WAS NOT HONEST..IN THE MIST OF MY SNOOPING I'VE COME ACROSS MORE THEN WHAT I EXPECTED AND BECAUSE I WAS OVERWHELMED N COULDN'T HANDLE KEEPING IT BOTTLED UP I CONFRONTED HIM.I ASKED SO WHO IS THIS GIRL YOU SAY YOU WANT TO KISS AND RUB UP ON HER THIGHS?..WHO IS THIS GIRL..WAIT..NOT GIRL BUT MORE LIKE GIRLS..THAT YOU REFER TO AS SEXY AND CUTIE?..AND HIS RESPONSE, THOSE ARE MY FRIENDS THAT I TALK TOO. NOW IM NOT STUPID AT ALL SO IT DOESNT FLY BY WITH ME YOU DONT REFER TO YOUR FRIENDS AS SEXY OR CUTIE OR TELL THEM YOU WANT TO KISS THEM. THOSE ARE SIGNS OF A CHEATER. OH BUT THATS NOT ALL I'VE ALSO PRESENTED EVIDENCE AND GOTTEN THREE DIFFERENT STORIES TO GO ALONG WITH AN EXPLANATION ALL IN WHICH JUST SANK HIM INTO A DEEPER HOLE.THEN THE LAST EXPLANATION WAS WHAT REALLY STUCK WITH ME "IM SORRY I WAS MAD AT YOU AND SO I WANT AND STARTED TEXTING ANOTHER GIRL". SO THATS SUPPOSED TO MAKE ME FEEL BETTER HUH?..NO..BECAUSE ALL IT MEANS IS WHEN WE ARGUE HE'S GOING TO GO BEHIND MY BACK AND TALK TO OTHER FEMALES.SO WHILE IM TRYING TO PATCH IT UP AND COOK HIM A NICE DINNER AND REMIND HIM WHY IM SUPPOSED TO BE THE ONLY ONE HE'S BUSY AVOIDING ME AND TRYING TO GET INTO SOME OTHER GIRLS PANTS.NOW THE FIRST I CAN DEAL WITH IT AND MAYBE LET IT GO BUT THEN A SECOND TIME COMES AROUND AND ITS MORE THEN ONE GIRL.I WONT GET INTO DETAIL BUT I WILL SAY THIS IF IT HAPPENS ONCE AND THEN AGAIN, ITS ALWAYS GOING TO HAPPEN.
SO NOW AFTER THE SECOND TIME I DECIDE WELL FROM HERE ON IM GOING TO HANDLE IT LIKE A WOMAN WHICH IS CONTINUE TO BE HIS WOMAN AND ACT LIKE ONE DESPITE MY SUSPICIONS.IM GOING TO CONTINUE FEEDING MY MAN AND SATISFYING HIM SEXUALLY. OF COURSE IT DOESNT WORK BECAUSE HE CONTINUES TO TALK TO OTHER FEMALES.THEN I DECIDE FROM NOW ON IM GOING TO TALK ABOUT IT, I ALWAYS TELL HIM HOW I FEEL SO WHY SHOULD I HOLD THIS BACK.SO I DO AND STILL NO WORKS BECAUSE ALL MEN DO IS TURN IT AROUND AND TRY TO MANIPULATE YOU INTO BELIEVING YOUR INSANE.SO I ASK HIM ARE YOU CHEATING? N HE SAYS NO THEN I TELL HIM WHAT I KNOW AND HE WALKS AWAY AND SAYS HE DOESN'T WANT TO TALK.NOW I'VE TRIED EVERY APPROACH I CAN AND NOTHING SEEMS TO WORK.I NEVER WENT AS FAR AS HE DID.HE CHEATS ON ME WITH TEXT AND PHONECALLS AND ACTUAL CONTACT WITH THESE GIRLS. GIRLS HE MEETS AT WORK OR THE GYM OR OUT IN THE STREETS.I DONT EVEN GO THAT FAR I DONT DO TEXTS OR PHONECALLS OR ANY OF THE SNEAKING BEHIND THE BACK BECAUSE I RESPECT HIM.
TRUTH IS MEN DONT RESPECT WOMEN AND THEY PLAY US LIKE FOOLS.I'VE ALWAYS KNOWN THAT.BUT SEE WHY DO WE AS WOMEN HAVE TO ARGUE WITH OURSELVES ABOUT WHAT TO DO WHEN THEY DONT AT ALL..NOW IM NOT SAYING ITS OK FOR TWO WRONGS TO MAKE A RIGHT IM SIMPLY SAYIN THERES OTHER WAYS TO BEAT THEM AT THEIR OWN GAME..I'VE DECIDED THAT YOU KNOW WHAT SO WHAT IF IT HURTS THAT I KNOW HE CHEATS BECAUSE I HAVE THE EVIDENCE, SO WHAT IF I SUSPECT THAT HE CHEATS,WHEN A MAN CHEATS HE DOESNT DESERVE ALL YOU HAVE TO OFFER , HE DOESNT EVEN DESERVE HALF OF WHAT YOU HAVE TO OFFER..GIVE HIM 30% OF WHAT YOU CAN OFFER..IT DOESNT MATTER THAT YOU ALREADY GAVE HIM 100% OR 80% AND HE KNOWS WHAT YOUR ALL IS...WHEN YOU CUT OUT THAT 70% FROM THAT 100% HE'S GOING TO REALIZE AND THEN HE'S GOING TO BE LIKE WAIT A MINUTE THIS GIRL USED TO GIVE ME HER ALL AND NOW SHE'S CHANGING AND THEN HE'LL BE IN THE POSITION YOU ONCE WERE IN..WONDERING!...AND YOU WILL NO LONGER WONDER ABOUT HIS FEELINGS, YOU WILL NO LONGER CARE WHETHER OR NOT HE'S CHEATING ON YOU BECAUSE YOU'RE EVEN MORE COMFORTABLE THEN BEFORE. IN ORDER FOR A MAN TO RESPECT YOU , YOU HAVE TO REJECT HIM, IF HE TALKS DOWN TO YOU DONT TALK DOWN BACK, AVOID HIS ASS, LAUGH ABOUT IT AND WALK OFF,WHEN HE CURSES AT YOU AVOID HIM DONT RESPOND, PLAIN AND SIMPLE "WHEN HE'S TREATING YOU LIKE CRAP, DO THE OPPOSITE"!!!!! BECAUSE JUST AS MUCH AS YOU HATE TO WONDER WHERE HE IS WHAT HE'S DOING, HE HATES IT EVEN MORE.IT MAKES HIM FEEL LESS MASCULINE, IT HURTS HIS EGO.IF A SHOT DOWN EGO IS WHAT IT TAKES FOR A MAN TO OPEN UP TO YOU AND LET YOU KNOW HOW HE REALLY FEELS THEN DO SO.ME PERSONALLY I DONT CARE WHO AGREES OR DISAGREES, BUT IT WORKS FOR ME. NOW I JUST SIMPLY KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT AND ALL THE ATTENTION AND AFFECTION THST I'VE GIVEN HIM BEFORE I'VE HAVEN'T BEEN GIVEN IT TO HIM.IT HELPS BECAUSE YOU START TO REALIZE THAT YOU WERE ATTACHED AND IT HELPS YOU UNATTACH YOURSELF.I CAN'T EVEN BEAGIN TO EXPLAIN HOW GOOD IT FEELS BECAUSE YOU WORRY SO MUCH ABOUT MAKING THEM HAPPY AND DOING WHATEVER IT TAKES TO KEEP THEM BY YOUR SIDE THAT YOU DONT SEE YOURSELF SMILE BECAUSE OF SOMETHING YOU'VE DONE FOR YOU. THE MORE YOU ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE SUBMISSIVE THE MORE THE MAN FEELS ITS OKAY TO WALK ALL OVER YOU.THEN EVERY NIGHT YOU GO TO BED SAYING "I SATISFIED YOU FOR A WHILE, WHEN IS IT GOING TO BE MY TURN?"..AND LORD KNOWS IF YOU ASK A GUY THAT QUESTION HE'LL FLIP. SO NO MORE WASTING TIME BECAUSE THATS ALL THAT IS..A MAN WHO CHEATS IS SIMPLY A WASTE OF A HUMAN BEING, IF YOU CAN MAKE IT WORK THEN TRY , BUT IF YOU TRY YOUR BEST AND IT STILL GOES ON REMEMBER THAT CONTINUOSLY TRYING IS FORCING HIM TO LOVE YOU AND WHAT YOU WANT IS PURE LOVE NOT FORCED LOVE.
